After much thought, I have come to believe that it has come time to end this project. Due to differences between my vision for how I wish us men to be and my lack of properly persuing them I have decided that in efforts to avoid being a hypocrite I will cease the development of this blog. My personal blog will remain active. Thank you for all who have followed and supported me throughout this endeavor, it truly means a lot.
-D
39. It’s all about me.
except it’s really not. as men, we should consider others first and foremost. don’t neglect yourself, but don’t spend so much time on yourself that you neglect others. i spend so much time thinking about me:
if she likes me?
what they expect me to do?
when really it’s more about the other person.
does she know that she was wonderfully made by a loving Creator’s hand and that He will never leave nor forsake her?
how does this even effect you and how can i help?
men, stop being me people and think of the other person. it’s hard, i know. again, i fail at all of these lessons just like you guys do. but at least we try, we give it a shot. we’ll never be perfect but hopefully we can get our hearts in tune with His.
Q:THANK YOU for looking away. I'm a female LU student and so discouraged by all the girls dressing so immodestly right now. I fear that men will be distracted by their legs and be drawn to those girls and overlook the less enticing, but more modest girls because we simply don't call much attention to ourselves. Also, I apologize on behalf of all Christian girls who don't think about modesty as much as we should.
Anonymous
Thanks for your input, I truly do appreciate feedback of any kind :). Firstly, I would like to point out that men SHOULD look away, however, I don’t always. It’s something I struggle with, along with many other guys. Lust is something that’s worked on constantly and that I am also a guy who tries to do better in this category. Spring is here which does indeed mean that girls will be dressing with increasingly short shorts and dresses which can be very distracting but at the same time it’s up to the men to be real men and not be drawn into them. Women should help men not to stumble…it’s true, but at the same time I feel like some men don’t even try, don’t even put effort into looking away. I think that modesty is really something our culture should emphasize more because I know that lust isn’t just a guy thing, girls have trouble with it too (though maybe on a lesser level) and neither sex is really helping the other as a whole to keep from lusting. Thanks again, love to hear what others think!
38. real men look away.
we are men, we are born with a desires for certain…things and oftentimes our eyes give us away. real men look away, they don’t cheapen the beauty of God’s creation by lusting over another person’s body.
it’s terribly difficult to avoid looking at the females in our society, they don’t all exactly dress modestly, but that’s part of the whole denying self thing. it tells us in the Bible that having these adulterous thoughts in our head is just as bad as actually committing them physically because we’ve already committed the sin in our heart.
you’ve got to learn to deny your flesh and feed your spirit. feed something else to look at, meditate on the Word, i don’t know but find someway you keep your mind as pure as possible. it’s hard guys but it’s possible, and practice makes perfect.
One cannot always be a hero, but one can always be a man.
it's jaaanel: The Code of Manhood.
by Eric Ludy
When a man exhibits true honor and nobility, specific qualities will mark his life. They comprise a sacred code of honor. A man who lives by this code will be:
- Dead to self-interest, confident in battle.
- Courageous under fire.
- Trained for (spiritual) war.
- Restrained to…
37. This.
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36. all the small things.
men pay attention to detail. because honestly, who remembers the huge, grand speech someone gave to a crowd of people about the love of Jesus Christ versus the intimate moment that someone actually showed you the love of Jesus Christ. like it was literally manifested in them.
it’s all about the details, not the grand gesture. that’s what people remember, that’s what sticks in our heart. you’re not going to remember every moment in your life, but you will remember the ones that meant something to you.
the small things are most monumental, they touch us at our deepest level. those small details are us being completely transparent, if even just for a moment. the moments we let God’s love and glory shine through us.
so just remember guys, that small moment that you interact with someone and show the love of Christ manifested in your heart may just change them forever. so be mindful of the small things men, the details.
35. stop letting yourself keep you from God.
i have this problem, it centers around me being judgmental. tonight and last night were part of spiritual emphasis week at liberty. oftentimes i find myself unable to get lost in worship, lost in appreciation, i can’t block everything out and really, truly worship Him.
i find myself critizing everything that’s going on around me.
- being angry out how ridiculously emotionally driven worship is here.
- deciding whether or not I think that the praise band is being earnest in their worship.
- wondering why more student leadership doesn’t pray with students that they see on their knees and hurting.
- wondering if the people singing are actually sold for Him or if it’s all just a show.
- why if we’re Christians and we truly believe…why aren’t we awestruck with wonder when we praise Him. why don’t we just drop to our knees and appreciate His beauty and power. submit to Him.
i end up hating it. and it’s not until i see an SLD come down from a whole other section and put her arms around someone and pray with them or I see that guy in the corner on his hands and knees worshiping that i remember that it’s not about everyone else. it’s about Him. all the glory to Him. once i open my mouth, begin singing and remind myself that worship is between God and I and all these judgements come from Satan. all these thoughts that are put into my head are to keep me from worshipping the one and only God.
so put them out of your head guys, remember that true men of God realize that it doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing, what their motives are. worship Him. worship and love Him, for He is definitely worthy of it. don’t let those judgements, those thoughts that Satan plants into your mind, keep you from Him overcome you desire to serve and worship.
also, don’t be afraid to pray for and with your neighbor. all we need is God, but it is nice to have someone else beside us on their knees. we’re all in this together for His glory.
